These are some links about celibacy contracts and i found the part about "latent feelings and getting in touch with ignored feelings due to celibacy" very interesting
Links and quotes below :
1. http://billherring.info/atlanta_counseling/definition-of-sexual-sobriety
"First, a period of total sexual abstinence allows for the process known as emotional withdrawal to occur. A person who can no longer tap into an ever-present sexual "high" that is capable of acting as an all-purpose mood manager now has an opportunity to experience actual feelings that may have become numbed or distorted. It can be quite revealing to experience previously unknown levels of sadness, anger, anxiety, loneliness and other unpleasant emotions that begin to emerge when the "self-medication" of compulsive sexual behavior stops."
"For individuals who are not in an ongoing sexual partnership with another person (and even for some who are) the issue of whether masturbation is consistent with the concept of sexual sobriety is important to consider. There's no doubt that compulsive masturbation, both with or without pornography, often becomes a heavily reinforced behavior that is central to the addictive cycle. Most people engage in sexual fantasy while masturbating. For true sex addicts such fantasy can serve as a gateway to a downward spiral into obsession, intrigue, objectification and eventually full-fledged compulsion that respects few if any boundaries. This is especially true when masturbation involves pornography: there is no question that chronic "PMO" ("pornography-masturbation-orgasm") has created an epidemic of people who are almost incapable of maintaining sexual intimacy with a real human being. As the motto for the outstanding website Your Brain On Porn states, "Evolution has not prepared your brain for today's internet porn."
2. http://www.throughtheflame.org/forum/content/more-celibacy-142/
"Early in the treatment it is suggested that sex addicts abstain from all sexual activities, including masturbation, for 30-90 days (because masturbation is so often a part of the compulsive behavior of the sex addict, it is important to refrain from this activity as well).
An abstinence period enables them to learn that they can indeed survive without sex, and allows them to get in touch with feelings that have been avoided and covered up with sexual activity."
"I then extended my contract to 90 days for two reasons; I feared that if I MB, I would return to P. Second, I was experiencing those feelings, a new found potency that I hadn't felt in almost a decade"
Links and quotes below :
1. http://billherring.info/atlanta_counseling/definition-of-sexual-sobriety
"First, a period of total sexual abstinence allows for the process known as emotional withdrawal to occur. A person who can no longer tap into an ever-present sexual "high" that is capable of acting as an all-purpose mood manager now has an opportunity to experience actual feelings that may have become numbed or distorted. It can be quite revealing to experience previously unknown levels of sadness, anger, anxiety, loneliness and other unpleasant emotions that begin to emerge when the "self-medication" of compulsive sexual behavior stops."
"For individuals who are not in an ongoing sexual partnership with another person (and even for some who are) the issue of whether masturbation is consistent with the concept of sexual sobriety is important to consider. There's no doubt that compulsive masturbation, both with or without pornography, often becomes a heavily reinforced behavior that is central to the addictive cycle. Most people engage in sexual fantasy while masturbating. For true sex addicts such fantasy can serve as a gateway to a downward spiral into obsession, intrigue, objectification and eventually full-fledged compulsion that respects few if any boundaries. This is especially true when masturbation involves pornography: there is no question that chronic "PMO" ("pornography-masturbation-orgasm") has created an epidemic of people who are almost incapable of maintaining sexual intimacy with a real human being. As the motto for the outstanding website Your Brain On Porn states, "Evolution has not prepared your brain for today's internet porn."
2. http://www.throughtheflame.org/forum/content/more-celibacy-142/
"Early in the treatment it is suggested that sex addicts abstain from all sexual activities, including masturbation, for 30-90 days (because masturbation is so often a part of the compulsive behavior of the sex addict, it is important to refrain from this activity as well).
An abstinence period enables them to learn that they can indeed survive without sex, and allows them to get in touch with feelings that have been avoided and covered up with sexual activity."
"I then extended my contract to 90 days for two reasons; I feared that if I MB, I would return to P. Second, I was experiencing those feelings, a new found potency that I hadn't felt in almost a decade"
"One of a sex addict's core beliefs was that sex was his/her most important need. By abstaining from sex, all of the memories and/or feelings you have been trying to suppress come quickly to the surface where they can be dealt with and worked through"
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